Patience is the Rule
I have a 2 year old English bulldog who gives my wife and I fits! Constant barking, peeing in the house and jealousy all the time. I am active duty Air Force and I don’t want to get rid of my dog if I don’t have too. If there is any way you can help please contact me!
I will contact you directly via email. —DOuG
We adopted a six year old female Yorkie from A home 4 Spot. She loves my wive, but after a week, bit me the first time. She is so ferocious that she will chase me and bite any chance she has. I don’t know how to be the alpha. She is only eleven pounds and I truly need help with this. Gracie gets along with our other pets. I understand she has been kept in a cage for most of her life and used for extensive breeding. I feel like she is trying to protect everybody from me. We have no males coming to the house, so I don’t know if she hates only me or all males. Thank you for helping us.
It’s not about gender. It’s sort of about being the alpha, but I think you’ll do better letting go of all preconceptions about what it means to be the alpha and start with a clean slate.
I teach The Pause, which includes calm assertiveness, and I also work initially with your dog to break through her exterior personality so you and your wife can regain your leadership with her — which is what all of her protests and biting and barking are about. Think of it as a cry for help.
When a dog gets this unbalanced, when her pendulum for her emotional, dog health is pegged in the unhealthy side, so many things can happen. It’s our position as strong, healthy pack leaders to get her back on to her path of being the dog that she is. Right now, she’s far, far removed from being a dog.
You’ve taken the correct, next step by contacting me.
I already talked with your wife. I’ll see you tomorrow afternoon.
The DOuG Trainer
I am very interested in training. I have a 7 month old boxer mix (not sure of the mix, most likely pit) who is in need of some training. We tried the petsmart group classes but they did not hold her attention. This is the first dog I’ve had where I’m in charge of training her and I realize I don’t have a clue how to do that.
Any information you can give me, like times you are available, as well as your pricing, would be very appreciated. I’m getting desperate here.
I emailed you separately.
There are a few big box stores that offer what’s called training. Their trainers are usually quite good, but unfortunately, I believe they’re also limited in what they’re allowed to do, so I’m never quite sure of their results.
—The DOuG Trainer
We have a silky terrier that is 9 years old and has been aggressive with our kids and other animals in the house since we got him. He has continuously tried to assert his dominance over everyone in the house and fights me and my husband as leader. He seems to have a lot of anxiety (shaking, high pitched barks, peeing) and has initiated every dog fight (most recently Friday night).
If you could send me information on availability and pricing I would greatly appreciate it.
This often seems impossible to overcome, but from my vantage point, it’s another application of the same basics that work for every dog–calm and assertive leadership.
You’ll see a change immediately, but keep in mind that to build a completely new norm for the dog, it will take weeks of steady, consistent, and strong repetition for the dog to give up on the old ways and begin to accept your new reality.
I’ve already emailed you details. Call me as soon as you’re able. 407-257-3684.
The DOuG Trainer
Hi, I am interested in finding out more about your training. I have a 6 year old Chihuahua that I adopted over a year ago who doesn’t walk well on a leash and is now peeing in the home almost daily. Can you provide me with more information on your training and pricing. Thank you!
Hi. I emailed you directly with a reply to these issues.
I adopted a loving and sweet APBT from a local rescue. She was 2 years old when I got her 2 years ago. For the most part she seems to be very happy and full of life and energy. Recently, I have noticed that she is exhibiting some new behavior that kind of concerns me. When I feed her she will not eat until I leave the room. This is just when I feed her. My son or my boyfriend can feed her and she will eat immediately as long as I am not around. Its like she is making sure I don’t want it or something. I originally thought of this as a respect thing, because I know in the wild the alpha eats first and the subordinate dogs eat last and thought of this as one of those things. I do make her work for her food because I was told that I should make her do that in order to establish dominance since she was so wild when I got her. Can you tell me what this seems like to you?
Without seeing it in person, no, I can’t tell, but it doesn’t seem to be food aggression. If it were food aggression I’d be concerned.
Dogs won’t eat if they’re anxious and unsure, which poses the possibility that she’s not liking your degree of leadership: if she DID like your level of leadership, and she were NOT becoming anxious or unsure, then she’d be eating.
My initial response is going to be to tell you to get training from a reputable trainer to show you how to be the strong, calm, assertive leader. When she’s able to eat around you, you’ll know you’ll have arrived.
Do do the work, though. It’s to your benefit, and to your dog’s.
Call me if you need more help.
Doug “The DOuG Trainer”
We adopted a dog from the shelter 3 months ago, just a couple of weeks before I was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. We also have 2 other dogs in the house that we have had for 8 years. We have been trying to train the new dog but we’re not having a lot of success. We have gotten some basic commands down but she is continuously aggressive with the other dogs and toys, won’t stop peeing in the house, she digs and shews things, and she jumps on our furniture and then tries to bite me when I try to get her off (recently started). If you think you can help please contact me so we can discuss.
Melodie, I emailed you directly about your request. I believe the solution is all about changing your leadership style.
we are first time dog owners and we have a few questions. We are in India though. Is it OK if we email you directly with the questions that we have? How would you charge us for this service?
I responded to your question directly by email.
I spoke with you briefly, earlier this year, about my rescue dog, Nisha. She has changed quite a bit since then. She no longer nips and doesn’t go crazy in her kennel, when we leave, anymore, which is awesome. The only problems we have now is that she is still wary of anyone new, she loves to get in their personal space, but when they go to pet her she backs away so fast and doesn’t want them touching her. She also goes nuts when the doorbell rings or someone knocks on the door and I can’t ever get her to stay back when I do open the door. I was wondering if you’d be willing to help. Please e-mail whenever you get the chance.
I emailed you directly.
I read with interest your comments and views regarding owners dealing with the mother of a dead puppy(s).
Regarding emotions it is nothing short of idiotic to supposed animals don’t have emotions.
They get angry, they get happy. Why on earth would anyone imagine they don’t become grieved at loss.
They do have considerably more brain than just the brain stem (controls all the basic stuff and instinct and partly emotion) Guess what… they even have a limbic system it deals with emotions and memory etc.This is a fairly advanced system in all mammals. They have a frontal cortex not a very big one, it deals with decision making, all the higher functions, cognition etc. etc.
So you see there is ample physiological scientific proof that animals have emotions.
Even Darwin postulated the existance of emotions in nonhuman animals. There is wide ranging behavioural proof that animals have emotions.
It’s only the hard line behaviouralists that reject the existence of emotions in animals. But then their notions of h o w learning occurs are extremely limited.
Sure the animal can’t tell us verbally, but communication is only partly based upon words.
So when you talk of what to do with a dead puppy and it’s live mother. I would suggest you think again about your handling of the situation which appears somewhat cruel.
Thank you for your input.
My husband and I have recently adopted 2 puppies 7month old German Sheppard and a 5 month old Labrador. The German sheppard is jumping all the time, she jumps to greet, she jumps to play, grabs food of the table and we need help! Our Labrador is sweet but can’t hold himself not playing w other dogs at the park. If we do not allow him to go and play (because we’re walking) he’ll start barking and jumping (basically throwing fits). What can we possibly do to help them become better pups?
Hi Toby. I replied directly to your inquiry by email, giving you some explanations and methods to help move you forward. Email, or better yet let’s talk some more about what’s needed.
–The DOuG Trainer
I have been reading through your website and find it to be very encouraging. We (myself, my wife and younger brother) have very recently (2 weeks back) adopted a rescue puppy. Her name is Sandy and as per her paperwork she is a Retriever and Labrador/Shepherd mix.
She has adjusted well so far but like all puppies, she is whiny and jumps when left alone in her playpen. I read your post about poking while jumping and will try to follow it. She sleeps in her crate at 10 pm and wakes up at 7 am sharp without getting up or waking anyone up in the night. She is smart and have learned a basic command like ‘Sit’.
It has been difficult to walk her on leash but she is only walks when in mood. Like all puppies she tries to experience everything with her mouth be it woodchips or small rocks and every time she does that I have to remove it by putting finger in her mouth.
What I have noticed in past couple of days that while playing she sometimes gets a little over the threshold (I wouldn’t use aggressive since she she is still 10 weeks) and starts running in the house a a very high pace then randomly stopping at one of our feet and trying to bite it while barking. While barking she bends down on her front feet and raises her back while wagging her tail. During such behavior if I or my brother bend down to her level and say ‘No’ then she keeps walking back in same position, still barking and then goes and hides under the table.
Also, she gets hyper in grass. Recently she started chasing my brother while in park which we thought as she was playing but when he stopped she kept barking and wanted to bite his leg. We have no intentions of scaring and making her aggressive in self defense. All we want her to be is disciplined for which we need guidance from you.
I have read snippets from your website and you constantly emphasize on being ‘calm and assertive’. How can we do that when it makes you feel bad when she whines in playpen even after being well fed, having finished her business and having all sort of chew toys around her?
We want to raise Sandy right and can really use your tips and advice in doing so since we all are first time pet owners.
Where should we start and how can we be better at raising her.
Please let us know.
I emailed you directly. These things are too complex to type through. Calling on the phone and talking is much more efficient.
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